Flaming- What’s the point?

5 Jul

For the LIFE OF ME … I can not understand the point in flaming people!

For those who may not know what a flame is— in the literary world it’s an intentionally hurtful/ malice review on someone’s body of work. I don’t know if that’s the actual definition, but you get the picture.

Now, this isn’t to be confused with politely and in a constructive way voicing your dislike for something or your opposing viewpoint of something.  After all not every book, blog, magazine article etc. is compiled with everyone in mind.

I, for one, have never read the Wall St. Journal, and probably never will.

Therefore, I am not the target audience.  So a flamer, to me, is someone who goes out scouting material not meant for them— in which they already know they will not like—all for the purpose of bashing the authors and their integrity, creativity, character, education, you name it—they bash it.

So this is what I ask: What’s the point?

What do you flamers get out of leaving nasty and hurtful reviews for people? Is it something that helps you sleep better at night? Make you feel big like you accomplished something? Do you feel like you’re doing a public service and speaking out for the weaklings who might not “have the balls to admit that they are really thinking?”

This is all kidding aside… I am DYING to understand it.

Now, I’ll admit I’ve been pretty lucky. With the exception of a few people stating that my characters may be a bitch, dense, or vapid … or that my blog has no rhyme or reason to it (*snort* I already told people my blog is about everything and nothing but whatever) … No one has come through and ripped me to the core in how much my family sucks, how I’m going to hell, or how I should never write again. (I’m sure that will change but whatever)

However, something people on the outside tend not to realize is that we bloggers, writers, etc.  are VERY much protective of each other because in simple terms: We know the struggle.

So, no, I haven’t gotten the worst of the flaming (yet) but having to see, read, or hear about fellow writers and bloggers going through this,  I feel it and again: I will never understand the point.

Yes, we put our works and thoughts out there to be judge and criticized, I get it, and it’s the nature of the beast. But to tell someone you don’t like their story or characters, or their blog— is not to tell them how horrible of a person they are, or how they or their families will rot in hell, or to threaten them or WORSE … when they post about a tragic event on a blog for you to call them LIARS, hate on them, or wish harm on them and their families during a tragic time.

For those who don’t know what it’s like … I would love for you to live inside the mind of a writer (aspiring or not) just for one day and see if you can come out on the other side sane. Those characters you read about—the ones you love to hate, or hate to the love? That murderer, that victim— yeah, they all lived in our minds for an insurmountable amount of time before we were able to put them on paper. You don’t like them fine. But you don’t know the man or woman behind the screen, the story that we may have lost sleep or shed tears over. Yet you sit behind your anonymity and exist solely to tear us down.

So I am asking, begging, for you all to enlighten me. As most flamers tend to hide behind their screens, never wanting to reveal their identities—have no fears you don’t have to sign in to comment under my posts.

I mean, GOD FORBID you have to actually take back the shit you dish out, huh?

7 Responses to “Flaming- What’s the point?”

  1. Steven L. Campbell July 6, 2012 at 2:59 PM #

    I rank flaming with one of the many hate crimes going on. I’m from a time when people only spoke when they had something positive to contribute. 55 years later, I’m still that way. Long live the brotherhood and sisterhood of love!

    • lolosofocused July 6, 2012 at 4:01 PM #

      Definitely! It’s a form of hate/bullying! So sad!

  2. bbwraven July 5, 2012 at 10:04 AM #

    I never understood flaming myself and as someone who enjoys blogging and writing fiction it’s hard to put yourself out there.
    As much as I want the reviews, I know some bad are coming. Thankfully never been flamed but hav received a few bad and as much it hurts I take it into consideration.

    • lolosofocused July 5, 2012 at 11:08 AM #

      Yeah, it’s definitely hard to put ourselves out there, especially knowing the trolls and flamers are lurking about!! We have to learn to take the good with the bad, but it’s the hurtful that stick with us sometimes… But I do agree, sometimes you have to find the truth behind the nasty and take what they are saying in consideration!! Thanks for reading! This and my other stuff!! *heart*

  3. brittskrabanek July 5, 2012 at 9:32 AM #

    I am pretty new to the blogging world, so I have not experienced this myself…yet. But, my first novel is coming out next month, and I certainly know this is a strong possibility. I will want to tear my hair out in frustration when it happens. Online voices are peculiar, because negative people can shout then hide, instilling abuse against another in a cowardly way. As writers, we just have to continue sticking together for moral support, and know that these other people are unhappy and hurting in some way. Their ranting has nothing to do with our passionate, hard work.

    • lolosofocused July 5, 2012 at 11:05 AM #

      First, CONGRATULATIONS on your new novel!!!! I know that must be exciting (and nerve wracking but exciting none-the-less :-)) And you’re right, unfortunately the negative voices tend to have more of an impact, overshadowing the praise at times, but sticking together always wins out in the end! Can’t wait to hear more about this novel! Good luck on your journey!! 🙂

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