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Flaming- What’s the point?

5 Jul

For the LIFE OF ME … I can not understand the point in flaming people!

For those who may not know what a flame is— in the literary world it’s an intentionally hurtful/ malice review on someone’s body of work. I don’t know if that’s the actual definition, but you get the picture.

Now, this isn’t to be confused with politely and in a constructive way voicing your dislike for something or your opposing viewpoint of something.  After all not every book, blog, magazine article etc. is compiled with everyone in mind.

I, for one, have never read the Wall St. Journal, and probably never will.

Therefore, I am not the target audience.  So a flamer, to me, is someone who goes out scouting material not meant for them— in which they already know they will not like—all for the purpose of bashing the authors and their integrity, creativity, character, education, you name it—they bash it.

So this is what I ask: What’s the point?

What do you flamers get out of leaving nasty and hurtful reviews for people? Is it something that helps you sleep better at night? Make you feel big like you accomplished something? Do you feel like you’re doing a public service and speaking out for the weaklings who might not “have the balls to admit that they are really thinking?”

This is all kidding aside… I am DYING to understand it.

Now, I’ll admit I’ve been pretty lucky. With the exception of a few people stating that my characters may be a bitch, dense, or vapid … or that my blog has no rhyme or reason to it (*snort* I already told people my blog is about everything and nothing but whatever) … No one has come through and ripped me to the core in how much my family sucks, how I’m going to hell, or how I should never write again. (I’m sure that will change but whatever)

However, something people on the outside tend not to realize is that we bloggers, writers, etc.  are VERY much protective of each other because in simple terms: We know the struggle.

So, no, I haven’t gotten the worst of the flaming (yet) but having to see, read, or hear about fellow writers and bloggers going through this,  I feel it and again: I will never understand the point.

Yes, we put our works and thoughts out there to be judge and criticized, I get it, and it’s the nature of the beast. But to tell someone you don’t like their story or characters, or their blog— is not to tell them how horrible of a person they are, or how they or their families will rot in hell, or to threaten them or WORSE … when they post about a tragic event on a blog for you to call them LIARS, hate on them, or wish harm on them and their families during a tragic time.

For those who don’t know what it’s like … I would love for you to live inside the mind of a writer (aspiring or not) just for one day and see if you can come out on the other side sane. Those characters you read about—the ones you love to hate, or hate to the love? That murderer, that victim— yeah, they all lived in our minds for an insurmountable amount of time before we were able to put them on paper. You don’t like them fine. But you don’t know the man or woman behind the screen, the story that we may have lost sleep or shed tears over. Yet you sit behind your anonymity and exist solely to tear us down.

So I am asking, begging, for you all to enlighten me. As most flamers tend to hide behind their screens, never wanting to reveal their identities—have no fears you don’t have to sign in to comment under my posts.

I mean, GOD FORBID you have to actually take back the shit you dish out, huh?

If you’re against gay marriage: Then don’t get GAY MARRIED!

27 May

I’m still not sure who came up with that saying, but my response to it has always been: A-fucking-men!!

This is probably as political, or whatever you choose to call it, that I will EVER get… And probably the angriest to! But, I feel it’s time to say something!

To anyone who wants to hear it.

Not that it’s not an ongoing issue —but as usual—whenever elections start rolling around, people decide to plant their flags in the ground of right and wrong, and blur the lines between church and state.

To be honest… I’m stick to death of it!

Dear government; WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU to decide what “love” is right or wrong, huh? Who are you to decide that “certain people” should not be allowed the same rights—not privileges— but RIGHTS as everyone else?

Once upon a time, if I fell in love with a white man– I wouldn’t have been able to marry him. Remember that? Once upon a time, a black man, such as my brother would have had the SHIT beat out of him, for so much as looking at someone of a different race. That means my beautiful nieces, and nephew would have never been here. Or worse treated like an abomination.

Do you plan on bringing those days back? Do you? It’s different, is it? Really how so? Please enlighten me.

There are days when I am so proud of how far we’ve gotten as a society. And then there are days, where I really want to vomit over the judgmental and ignorant shit that I come across.

So, it’s a sin in the bible huh? Well guess what, I’m not hear to dispute that because I don’t claim to know the bible, at all. But guess what? YOU ASSHOLES DON’T EITHER! You don’t get to use it when it benefits your cause, then turn around and tear it apart as it suits you! That’s not how it works!

When will you learn? When will WE ALL learn. Hate breeds hate. That’s fact. When will it stop? You have the power, we all do, but what do you do?

You insert yourselves into the wombs of women, and tell us what to do with it!

You play GOD and rip peoples hearts out by telling them who they are “allowed” to love and how they are “allowed” to show it!

You ignore the cries of the hungry, and pleas of the uneducated, while you further your own agenda’s and beef up your own wallets!

No one is forcing you to “like” this idea or that idea. After all, we’re not YOU… we believe in free will and all that. You don’t like something? By all means, don’t do it! Don’t participate in it! Look the other way!

But to force you’re OWN beliefs of wrong on others and then hide behind that guise that it’s the ONLY acceptable belief?

Hardly seems fair does it?!

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