Tag Archives: health

Just Say … Whatever you want to say to Drugs

6 Feb

So the next question of the challenge is in regards to my view on “Drugs and Alcohol.”

Riiiigggggghhhttt . . . Umm–is it passive aggressive for me to say I don’t have a view on it? ‘Cause I don’t.

Maybe I should. Maybe I should use this as a platform to spout all the FDA regulations, the laws, the consequences on your body and blah, blah, blah.

But I won’t.

I can’t.

Because I’m not your mother.

It’s 2013; though this argument stands true for the past decade or so. “This is your brain; this is your brain on drugs.” Remember those commercials… I do!

Gone are the days where they “unknowingly” put Cocaine in coca-cola products; not knowing it’s addictive nature and such.

We ALL know, by now, the result drugs  can have on your body. Your life. And those around you.

I don’t support drugs (or not-support them) any more than I do smoking cigarettes. Because, not sure if your heard, but whispers, “Smoking causes lung cancer.”

Why I never . . .

Exactly!

We know, we all know, what the deal is. Yet, they do it anyway. It’s not my job to spout my views on the topic. I don’t do drugs. I know people who have. People who’ve become addicted, people who’ve only done it socially, and yes people who’ve sold it.

Was it hard to see them suffer through this “addiction” and “disease”—yes it was. But it was even harder for me to sympathize when they lost people who loved them, or worse : ended  up in jail. WHY? ‘Cause they knew what they were getting themselves into and did it anyway!

So my view … if you know what it’s going to do to you, but you choose to do it anyway … well, you know the saying you’ve made your bed now you have to lie in it? Yup!

That’s my stance! What’s yours?

Challenge: Day 2 and 3

18 Jan

So, I mentioned the day before yesterday in this post that I’m participating in a fellow bloggers Challenge.

If you click the link you will find the “topic” for each of the thirty days 🙂

Since I didn’t get a chance to get this out yesterday–I’ve combined two days! Kinda like when you miss a birth control pill… (Let’s not pretend you can’t relate, ladies) Moving on!

 

Day 2: How have you changed in the past 2 years?

I can go so many different ways with this . . . because at first glance, I thought: Damn, HAVE I changed in the past two years? I had to really think about this.

Two years may seem like nothing to some, but A LOT can happen in two years. Shit–a lot can happen in 2 days or 2 hours– So 2 years is a lifetime.

In the past two years, the thing that’s changed the most about me is: I’ve learned a hell of a lot about humility. I’m not an arrogant person, never have been–never will be. But I am stubborn as hell when it comes to my ‘Independence’. No need to get into it, most of you know about my health issues by now.

So sucking it up and knowing when to ask for help, has been my biggest change aka improvement. Well . . . I think it’s an improvement.

 

Day 3: What kind of person attracts you?

So . . . yeah–I like a guy with a sense of humor, nice smile, good heart and all that good stuff. But it wouldn’t hurt if he ever looked like any of these guys while he’s at it!

Channing Chris-Hemsworth-shirtless-Down-Under devin-thomas-3 shemar

Sooooo …. how have YOU changed in the past two years, and what kind of person attracts you?? Don’t worry; I won’t tell! :-p

If you ever need me >> Twitter: @Lolosofocused

She’s alive! ALLLIIVVVVEEE!!!

5 Dec

So guess what I figured out?? Wanna know? It appears as though I have a super power!

One I’m naming: the-ability-to-fall-off-the-face-of-the-planet-without-warning.

It’s a very real power! I swear!

It’s been months since I’ve spoken to you guys—yet I still get you crazy people who follow my blog and hit me up! Wait … I mean that in a good way! Crazy is good in my world so don’t stop! 🙂

So … what have I been up to lately? I shall tell ya! (and if you follow me on twitter ya’ll already know my life) LOL

Job Update: 

So thanks to several posts—once upon a time; such as Phone Sex Operator Lolo—it was made clear I was unemployed and HATING it! Well, the good news is  a few months ago I GOT A JOB!! Yay!! But then I got ‘sick’ again … ya know the Spondyloarthropathy thing, and went to the hospital! Boo!!! But then I went back to work a few days later! Yay! But that didn’t last long and they put me on medical leave! UNPAID!! Double Boo!!

So now I got a doc appt coming up (weeks later ’cause they be booked up yo) to see IF I can be released back to work! The ironic thing of all is this??? I FEEL JUST FINE!

Love life:

I don’t know that I ever dwelled much on this in past posts, but … meh not much to tell anyway! There’s nothing, no-one and yeah! So for a hot second I almost entertained the idea of the online scene! THAT stopped the minute I got hooked to a little show I’d like to call ‘Catfish’– shit’s heartbreaking!! 😦

Other stuff

Sooooo …. not sure how many of ya’ll knew this or ever read the few posts I got to write on ‘So you think you can Act’  —my blog I did for my first acting class. But, yeah so apparently I CAN act a little… so I’ve been told!  A few months ago (and this is really what ended up monopolizing my time) I went to my very first audition EVER! And  … Got it!! Now, don’t go looking for me on the big screens. I got to play 1 of 3 woman for the VAGINA MONOLOGUES at a local theater! The run ended about a week ago and it was seriously one of the best experiences in my life! If you’ve never taken an acting class, or auditioned for something DOO ITT just the experience, the people you meet is insane! And if you DO get it–beating out other, and more ‘experienced’ actors for the role–really can’t tell you how amazing it is!

Soooo … yeah! That’s me and a brief summary of what the past few months have been like for me!! 🙂

What have YOU been up to?? 

Twitter: @lolosofocused

Movie Theater Etiquette

8 Jul

OK,  movie goer’s … It’s time we have a serious talk!

For starters, let me explain a little bit about my life, and what I do, in order for you to understand how important this post is to me.

Once upon a time (not even a full 2 years ago) I had “a life.”  I went out every weekend— to a party, a club, a bal (aka a small concert in the Haitian world), out of town to NY, and the likes … I was everywhere and anywhere!

As most of you know, though, thanks to a little something called Seronegative Spondyloarthropathy in which I discussed in a post many moons ago  “Me and my Arthritis- 5 things I learned”  All that fun loving, and club hopping came to an abrupt end.

My hips don’t lie and , literally,  just can’t take it anymore!  Anywho!

Fast Forward to my life (or lack thereof) now.

One of the only things I do as a form of  “Going out” is to actually go to the movies!  I’ve been, just about every weekend or every other weekend in the past few months, and pretty much have my weekends for the rest of the year planned out as to what movies I will be seeing… (Yes I’m a nerd– Don’t judge me).

MOVING RIGHT ALONG!

With that said there are just some things that have been —what’s the word?— Ah yes, INFLICTED on me that I just don’t see the use for. Common courtesy and common sense, are clearly a thing of the past, so I am here my dear friends to beg (see: enlighten) you on things that I really don’t think are fair to those around you.

1. FEET- *shudder* I hate feet! I hate feet with a passion deep in my soul that I just can’t explain.  Sometimes, (back when I had money and used to get pedicures on a regular basis) I would avert my eyes as to not stare at someones crazy looking toes.

SO PLEASE! for the love of GOD,  if you absolutely MUST put your feet up on the seat in front of you (meaning my seat) Please keep your shoes on. There is no reason for me to have to see your fat, nasty, hairy big toe—Wiggling in my peripheral, when really I should be able to focus on Channing Tatum humping a stage.

2. CONTROL YOUR LAUGHTER- This one pains me because I know there is a good possibility that I to have an obnoxious laugh.  However, with this knowledge, I try my best to control it when other’s are around me.

Yes, you paid for the movie.  So, yes, you should be able to enjoy it. But so did everyone else.  So, the loud cackles, mixed with thunderous claps, and feet stomping— as if you’re in a stadium— are distracting and down right annoying. And they make it hard for everyone else to hear what the hell is going on.

Plus, sorry sir– that sat in front of us– but Madea really wasn’t THAT funny!

3. CLOTHES- Ladies! (Especially of the younger persuasion) I am SO GLAD for you that

your–whoever–brought you on a date to the movies.

However,  please dress appropriately. This isn’t you first movie,  and the concept of a theater stopped being new decades ago! So I’m pretty sure you knew, before you left the house and threw on that outfit that could rival a stripper, that it was going to be colder than a meat freezer inside.

So why do I have to see all your goodies, and then hear you complaining that it’s cold, or have the chattering of your teeth– as you catch pneumonia–ringing in my ears?

Where are you going??

 

I know you just wanted to look good for your date but sorry boo boo—  Your nakedness distracts us all, and not in a good way.

*This has been a certified rant from your’s truly*

If you have some movie theater etiquette you’d like to share with me, or just bad movie experience’s … Please feel free to rant Below! 🙂

Isn’t she lovely? Isn’t she wonderful ….

29 Jun

Didn’t think I meant it when I said I’d be right back, huh? Well HA! 🙂

OK!!! I would like to thank the Awesomeness that is YYChristian over at The Key’s to attraction blog for nominating me for the “One Lovely Blog” Award! I don’t think I can gush enough about his blog, But I’m gonna attempt it!!

Fella’s! PLEASE for the love of all that is good in the eyes of single women– PLEASE check out his blog! And ladies please show him some love to… He’s trying to help school the men folk, on just about everything on the do’s and don’ts of … well everything! And he does a damn good job at it. *Whispers, “He must double check with the ladies on some things ’cause he’s a little too spot on with some of the advice.”* 😉

Moving right along!

As with Every Award you know what times it is!

So here are the rules!

* Thank the person/people who nominated you and link back to them in your post.

* Share seven possibly unknown things about yourself.

* Nominate fifteen or so bloggers you admire.

* Contact the chosen bloggers to let them know and link back to them

Part 1-

7 things about Lolo (I may have already said some of these things before, but *shrugs* that must mean I really want you to know them).

1. I’m the youngest of three … (and the super annoying younger sister).

2. I’ve lived in Florida, Massachusetts, New York, and Haiti

3. I’m in my 20’s <— (That’s all you’re gonna get) lol

4. I’m afraid of the dark! (Things go bump in the night after all)

5. I hate, hate, HATE squirrels. (This I know I’ve said before, but it deserves mention twice. I just don’t understand why the little bastards exist).

6. I’ve seen more cooter than all the men I know combined! (I used to bar tend/waitress at a strip club).

7. The only sport I watch is Soccer.

Bonus: Since I jipped ya with bringing the squirrels up again

8. I played the clarinet for 4 years, but my brother made me quit when I got into high school!

Part 2-

Nominations

This might seem like a total cop-out … but in all fairness– this go round, I can’t pick! Really I follow so many blogs, and they all have so many things to offer that I won’t be able to decide. (Especially since I’ve been MIA for almost 2 weeks and a lot can change during that time you know).

Instead, I would just like to turn this back over to you guys! Thank you SO much for always providing me with laughs and smiles! From writing advice, to dating advice, to all around randomness … There really are some awesome bloggers on WordPress!!!!! Please check them out, and when you find a hidden gem of a blog that needs some recognition … pass along these awards to let them know how awesome they are and how much you appreciate them! 🙂

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!

You can follow me on Twitter: @lolosofocused

Penis Envy

12 Jun

“Forgive me father, for I have sinned”

As,  I’m days late with posting,  and the theme of my life continues to be sloth… Today’s sin of the day is: Envy

To be more specific . . . I’m taking it one step further to . . .  Penis Envy

Now, I’m not talking about Freud’s disturbing theory about when a young girl starts having a sexual desire for her father, and resentment towards her mother and all that, ’cause . . .  NO! Just . . .  NO! *shudder*

What I AM talking about however, is that moment, somewhere around your mid 20’s when we woman realize,  that we do in fact,  lack a penis.  

And the privilege’s that come with it.  

I’m sure this all started way before my time, but since I wasn’t alive during the “Woman’s Lib Movement” . . . I’ll take you back to the early 2000’s. 

Before the kids these days had “Kim Kardashian” as role model, and sex tapes were a sure fire way to hit stardom.

I had Lil’ Kim, Christina Aguilera, and the likes, singing in my ear that , as women,  “It was time to make a change,  and stand our ground against double standards”  and to literally  “SHOUT OUT LOUD!!” ‘Cause ‘Can’t no body hold us down.’ Yada, Yada, Yada . . .

And you know what I did? Wait for it,  I BELIEVED THEM! 

Yes,  like many of you ladies out there,  in my early 20’s I ran around, with the belief that I to can do what the big boys did, and shouldn’t be judged for it. HAHAHAHA!!!!! *slapping my knee*  Oh my poor naive soul!!! 

Do I still believe I shouldn’t be judged for all the sloring I did when I was 20. Absolutely.  Is that how it works, however? NOPE!!! 

And deny it all you want, but we know it’s true!

Where a man can get a way with MURDER in the dating-sphere . . . We woman can’t!

It sucks, but it is what it is!

I CRINGE at some of the people I’ve let (for lack of a better word) enter my sacred temple in the past, people that I wouldn’t so much as chance a second glance at, now that I got my “I am woman hear my roar” head, out of my ass . . .

So, yeah. . . even though I’ve gotten lucky, and to my knowledge,   DON’T get judged for certain things from my past, I still have to live with it! Whereas (in my opinion) I really don’t think guys have that same issue as often! Hence the penis Envy!

Thanks for reading and sorry so short! I plan to elaborate on this in the future! But I wanted to write something really quickly and dedicate it to one of my best’s Meli!!! 

Lustful Writing

6 Jun

Consider this Part 2: of  “My eyes are lustful whores”

The sin of the day is clearly still: Lust

OK! So you know how I told you that lust is one of the topics that I could write several posts about? I wasn’t kidding 🙂

Many of you know I write (or maybe not)… What you may not know, however, is WHAT I write. Fanfiction! I know– Don’t judge me! I love what I write, the stories I read, and some of the amazing authors that I meet daily… So yeah, my motto: Don’t like it don’t read it ya know! No hard feelings!

Moving on!

I decided (since we’re still on lust) to share with you some of what I write… that pertains to lust that is. Yes, my stories have a plot… of course! But, they also have some smut! So, read with caution!! Under 18: please leave now! Thanks!

*****

He grabbed the back of my knees and started thrusting into me more forcefully then he was before. 

Deeper.

Harder.

“Fuck… Yes!”

The sounds of our moans and grunts filled the air.

The noise of our hips slapping together echoed in the night.

I pulled his hair.

He bit onto my shoulder.

His movements were rough, hard, and needy.

They were almost angry.

 And it was fucking fantastic.

When I felt my walls clenching around him, I whimpered.

“Shit,” He hissed, and started rubbing my clit furiously; so furious that it probably would hurt if I wasn’t so wet. “Come on baby…” He pleaded… his eyes scrunched tight.

Once he takes my earlobe into his mouth I explode.

I’m shaking.

I’m screaming.

I’m coming so hard I’ve lost control of my body.

He’s still slamming into me brutally.

I don’t understand the noises coming from me as I all but beg him to stop.

I can’t take it anymore.

The pleasure is so intense I almost cry.

And then… I feel it… I’m there again.

“Yes…” He growls. “Gimme another one baby…”

And I do.

He’s grunting and moaning how much he loves me. Then finally I feel him spill into me.

We’re spent, and barely holding on too each other, as I finally feel a tear escape.

 “What was that?” I asked breathless, and panting once we calmed down.

He takes a moment as if trying to find a way to explain, when an evil glint came to his eyes. “That my love…” He smiles smugly.  “Is what I like to call make up sex.”

*****

He he! Hope you liked it! Ever want to read more? Here’s how to find me!

On AO3

On Fanfiction.net

at The Writers Coffee Shop- TWCS 

OR: If you look at the top of the page… I also add my stories here on my blog! 😉

I’ll share another one with you guys! If you’d like! Lemme know!!! 🙂

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