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Challenge: Day 2 and 3

18 Jan

So, I mentioned the day before yesterday in this post¬†that I’m participating in a fellow bloggers Challenge.

If you click the link you will find the “topic” for each of the thirty days ūüôā

Since I didn’t get a chance to get this out yesterday–I’ve combined two days! Kinda like when you miss a birth control pill… (Let’s not pretend you can’t relate, ladies) Moving on!

 

Day 2: How have you changed in the past 2 years?

I can go so many different ways with this . . . because at first glance, I thought: Damn, HAVE I changed in the past two years? I had to really think about this.

Two years may seem like nothing to some, but A LOT can happen in two years. Shit–a lot can happen in 2 days or 2 hours– So 2 years is a lifetime.

In the past two years, the thing that’s changed the most about me is: I’ve learned a hell of a lot about humility. I’m not an arrogant person, never have been–never will be. But I am stubborn as hell when it comes to my ‘Independence’. No need to get into it, most of you know about my health¬†issues by now.

So sucking it up and knowing when to ask for help, has been my biggest change aka improvement. Well . . . I think it’s an improvement.

 

Day 3: What kind of person attracts you?

So . . . yeah–I like a guy with a sense of humor, nice smile, good heart and all that good stuff. But it wouldn’t hurt if he ever looked like any of these guys while he’s at it!

Channing Chris-Hemsworth-shirtless-Down-Under devin-thomas-3 shemar

Sooooo …. how have YOU changed in the past two years, and what kind of person attracts you?? Don’t worry; I won’t tell! :-p

If you ever need me >> Twitter: @Lolosofocused

Challenge Accepted!! Day 1

15 Jan

While perusing the highlights of twitter on my morning break today–I came across a tweet where a fellow blogger posted a “30 Day Challenge” for herself!!

What did I do?– What any self-respecting annoying person would do: totally inserted myself into her challenge! ūüôā

I kid, I kid…

Lala over at “Seasons Change, and so have I”¬†Blog re-tweeted me and instead of asking me to mind my own God damned business, she asked if I planned on doing the challenge with her!

I said, “But of course.” ¬†Or something like that, so here we are! ūüôā

30 day list

 

 

Day 1: Weird things you do when you’re alone . . .

** Well . . . being that we’re living in the 21st century (or is it 22nd now? Idk–what with the world always ending, I lost track) and all–masturbating is no longer considered weird–at least I don’t think.

So let’s go with a close second.

I talk to myself. Like . . . alot! And out loud.

I mean, I don’t get into full-out arguments with myself, that I can recall, but I’ve been known to partake in some serious discussions with me, myself, and I.

To the point where people who I live with (but mainly my sister) have been prone to come to my room just to ask me, “Who the hell are you talking to?”

It’s actually quite annoying, when I’m interrupted, but I digress.

….

**Another thing I do??

I Youtube clips of people falling, getting scared, and pranks gone wrong– just to name a few!

I don’t know why, but there’s something just too damn entertaining about it I can’t help myself.

This video is one of my all times faves!

 

Don’t cry for her, Argentina! She made dollars of this shit. Got to several talk shows when this came out, too! Her feelings won’t be hurt that she’s brought so much joy into people’s hearts this many years later!

I’m sure I can name a ton more . . . but alas, that’ll have to do for now!

Sooo . . . are you up for the challenge?

And what weird shit do YOU do when you’re alone? It’s okay . . . you can tell me *wink*

You can follow Lala  on (Twitter)

and me as well ūüôā Twitter¬†

YOU are your competition

10 Jan

On your mark . . . get set . . . wait–how about we just walk together!?

Throughout “life” we learn a lot about people but mostly, hopefully, we learn about ourselves, too!

One thing I’ve learned–and am constantly reminded of–is that I’m not a “competitive” person.

I don’t see the point.

Now … I don’t think this applies to situations when sports are involved, or let’s say two students ¬†are vying for ONE scholarship, for example.

There are times when competition (friendly or not) is not only expected, but required!

There are other times, however, where it’s so uncalled for; when it rears it’s ugly head it makes people–like me who don’t see the need–look around, scratch their head and go, “Huh?!”

We all want success. We all want someone, anyone, and sometimes several people to tell us our goals and aspirations aren’t crazy or¬†unattainable. The validation that WE ARE good enough. Being your own cheerleader isn’t always enough.

So how about being a cheerleader for others? Telling them “good job” and pressing forward when they’ve reached a plateau you wanted or maybe still want.

How about keeping your head up, licking your wounds and working your ass off ’til YOUR days comes and those same people you cheered for can return the favor and be in your support system. Your very own cheering section.

Here’s something else I’ve learned.

Some people do things because they love it, but come against, and in contact with those who have ulterior motives. Maybe it’s hard to watch those people succeed. Maybe you feel someone else (you, a family member, or friend) is more deserving. But at the end of the day, this may be hard to hear, but SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE clearly disagrees.

She got the part.

He scored that agent.

She doesn’t deserve that man.

He isn’t good enough for her.

They got that award.

Someone decided that person earned, or deserved what they got.

Rarely are things simply handed to people these days.

Most importantly what I’ve learned:

If shine is what you seek: Trust–there’s enough shine to go around. Period. Maybe this person’s light shines a little brighter. But look around, someone probably thinks the same thing about you. You might be blinding someone right now.

I don’t care what anyone says. YOU are your competition. YOU should strive to get better for YOU. It shouldn’t be about him, her, them or they.

Don’t waste time comparing yourself to others and looking at them as “competition” . . . that’s weak. It doesn’t matter how they got to where they are—They’re there! If that’s where you want to be . . . start looking at them as inspiration.

It’ll save you a lot more time.

~Lory

Twitter: @lolosofocused

The Root of all Evil

4 Jan

Show me the money!!

 

This may very well make me seem ¬†like an unfeeling/insensitive and selfish asshole–but truth me told, I’m totally fine with that.

What is it you ask?

I NEVER LEND FRIENDS MONEY!

Okay, that’s not say I never have before (in the past … when I was young and dumb) but as a general rule I don’t¬†lend. If a friend or family member is in a bind–yes I might¬†give but loan??

^^^^^ What they said!!!^^^^

It’s just, to me, never a good idea.

I’ve seen (on TV and in real life situations) life-long ‘friendships’ get ripped to shreds all over a few hundred dollars … sometimes less.

Is that to say those few hundred dollars isn’t a lot? Hell no! And that’s the point:

“It’s never smart to lend money in which you can’t afford to simple give away”

While, I’m sure I’ve paraphrased the quote in some way and I’m not sure who said that, but BY GOD that’s some of the best advice ever.

Personally, I can’t¬†afford¬†to just hand ¬†over several bills to someone (Sallie Mae has me by the balls enough)… which, again, is why I won’t. If I’m going to miss it–than it stays with me. There are SO MANY ways to help out a friend that don’t involve handing them over your cold hard cash. ‘Cause as luck would have it 9/10 times, the minute you hand it over, something will come up the next day to make you regret it!

If the friend is a good friend {I sure hope they are if you were contemplating giving them money} they should and will appreciate your time. Your love. Your comfort.

Offer to babysit the kids to give them some free time, offer them a ride if their car is 2.5 seconds away from draining their bank account. Cook them some nice dinner if they are down, out, and without. Hell, even offer to buy the groceries for them. Help clean, paint, redecorate their house. Lend them something to wear. Really–the list goes on, but value what you have and who you can be for them. It shouldn’t just be about what you can GIVE them and vice ¬†versa.

Because in the struggles I’ve faced in life … I remember the friends who gave me their TIME ¬†and a meal, long before the ones who threw five bucks my way to get something to eat and sent me on my way.

Food for thought …

Penis Envy

12 Jun

“Forgive me father, for I have sinned”

As, ¬†I’m days late with posting, ¬†and the theme of my life continues to be sloth… Today’s sin of the day is: Envy

To be more specific . . . I’m taking it one step further to . . . ¬†Penis Envy

Now, I’m not talking about Freud’s disturbing theory about when a young girl starts having¬†a sexual desire for her father, and resentment towards her mother and all that, ’cause . . . ¬†NO! Just . . . ¬†NO! *shudder*

What I AM talking about however, is that moment, somewhere around your mid 20’s when we woman realize, ¬†that we do in fact, ¬†lack a penis. ¬†

And the¬†privilege’s¬†that come with it. ¬†

I’m sure this all started way before my time, but since I wasn’t alive during the “Woman’s Lib Movement” . . . I’ll take you back to the early 2000’s.¬†

Before the kids these days had “Kim Kardashian” as role model, and sex tapes were a sure fire way to hit stardom.

I had Lil’ Kim, Christina Aguilera, and the likes, singing in my ear that , as women, ¬†“It was time to make a change, ¬†and stand our ground against double standards” ¬†and to literally ¬†“SHOUT OUT LOUD!!” ‘Cause ‘Can’t no body hold us down.’ Yada, Yada, Yada . . .

And you know what I did? Wait for it,  I BELIEVED THEM! 

Yes, ¬†like many of you ladies out there, ¬†in my early 20’s I ran around, with the belief that I to can do what the big boys did, and shouldn’t be judged for it. HAHAHAHA!!!!! *slapping my knee* ¬†Oh my poor naive soul!!!¬†

Do I still believe I shouldn’t be judged for all the sloring I did when I was 20. Absolutely. ¬†Is that how it works, however? NOPE!!!¬†

And deny it all you want, but we know it’s true!

Where a man can get a way with MURDER in the dating-sphere . . . We woman can’t!

It sucks, but it is what it is!

I CRINGE at some of the people I’ve let (for lack of a better word) enter my sacred temple in the past, people that I wouldn’t so much as chance a second glance at, now that I got my “I am woman hear my roar” head, out of my ass . . .

So, yeah. . . even though I’ve gotten lucky, and to my knowledge, ¬† DON’T get judged for certain things from my past, I still have to live with it! Whereas (in my opinion) I really don’t think guys have that same issue as often! Hence the penis Envy!

Thanks for reading and sorry so short! I plan to elaborate on this in the future! But I wanted to write something really quickly and dedicate it to one of my best’s Meli!!!¬†

My eyes are lustful Whores

6 Jun

“Forgive me father for I have sinned”

The sin of the day is: Lust!

Right… So lust is one of the sins that I’d be able to write SEVERAL posts on! Why? That’s simple… Lust is defined as intense or unbridled sexual desire, or an intense longing.

And like the title informs you! Whether it be in real life, a photo, or on television/movie…

my  eyes are lustful whores!

¬†Obviously it’s not JUST me eyes. My brain, my thoughts, my daydreams of Christ Hemsworth! All make me lustful! As does, almost everything I write… ¬†But let me take you back to an actual experience.

This was a few years ago… during a girls trip to Vegas… and well ya know the saying. What happens there stays there. So, I won’t tell you evverrryytthhiinngg… But I will tell you that… these lustful eyes of mine almost got me into some big trouble.

Me and my friends were at a particular club (don’t ask me the name ’cause I don’t remember) walking around, dancing, and having a grand ole’ drunken time! When lust took over, and without warning made my mouth latch on to a stranger, like a Venus fly trap, and didn’t let up!

No I didn’t know his name, and no I couldn’t tell you what the hell he even looks like now… I was drinking and I believe he was in VIP with us. That’s ALL I needed to know! anyway!

How did the lust almost get me in trouble you wonder? Well, let me tell you! I guess I had been… umm ‘busy’ for a little while… and my friends had informed me they were going to the restroom. Leaving me with my prey and my lust induced hazed.

When I came up for air, from Mr. I-don’t-know-his-name… My friends were NO WHERE to be found! It was just me, and a few of his friends sitting around…

Cue epic freak out!!!!

It could have gotten really bad… But I was lucky that Mr. I-don’t-know-his-name ended up being able to calm down the lust on his end, and help me find my friends! Several near panic attacks, a frantic phone call to my cousin (who wasn’t with us and doesn’t even live in the country) and what felt like hours later; my friends and I were reunited! Yay!

But had it not been for the lustful hypnotic spell I was under… I probably wouldn’t have been in the situation in the first place!

Did I learn my lesson you wonder? Not really… just a few weekends ago my lustful haze had me in a¬†predicament¬†with someone I had vowed NEVER to speak to again! Damn you lustful eyes!!!!

7 Days, 7 Posts, 7 Deadly Sins

4 Jun

So I decided to give myself a challenge. Not a big challenge. Just a little challenge to see if I could find a reason (topic) that would require me to post everyday for a week!

I know some of you are probably waving a dismissive hand at me, as if to say “A blog a day for a week? That’s it?” Well… yeah that’s it! Lol

It might not sound like much, but to bloggers like myself who lag and struggle with things to say, often skipping days- if not weeks of posting, trust me: it’s a lot!

So, in thinking about my “challenge” to myself, a thought occurred to me! THE 7 DEADLY SINS! *Take a moment to shake head* Yeah, I’m not surprised that, that’s the first thing to come to me either! Moving on!

So what’s my challenge exactly? Well it’s to post 7 blogs, once a day (or more if the mood strikes *snort* it won’t) each day centering around a “deadly sin.”¬†

Not sure what the sins are? Don’t worry I’ll highlight them below.

Each day, for the next 7 days, I will make a post- dealing with something that I’ve done, or been a part of- in regards to the seven deadly sins!

I hope you’ll enjoy each, and that some of you will join me! ūüôā I would LOVE to see what certain people write for certain things (Lust *coughs* Lust).

Here are the sins:

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Lust

Uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.

Gluttony

Excessive eating and drinking.

Greed 

Excessive or rapacious desire, especially for wealth orpossessions.

Sloth

Habitual disinclination to exertion; indolence; laziness.

Wrath 

Vengeance or punishment as the consequence of anger.

Envy

Vengeance or punishment as the consequence of anger.

Pride 

High¬†or¬†inordinate¬†opinion¬†of¬†one’s¬†own¬†dignity,¬†importance,merit,¬†or¬†superiority,¬†whether¬†as¬†cherished¬†in¬†the¬†mind¬†or¬†asdisplayed¬†in¬†bearing,¬†conduct,¬†etc.

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Yeah, I’m sure I could highlight ONE weekend where I’ve exhibited ALL of these sins! How about you??

Oh and while all of you are HOPEFULLY thinking of your 7 deadly sins; take a moment to think about “What you’ve learned from blogging” Nicole over at NMNPHX is compiling a lists from fellow bloggers in honor of her blogiversary (it’s a word, I swear) have questions? Hit her up here.¬†

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